Be honest, when you were a teenager, the thought of “old people” having sex was a surefire way to induce dry heaves. But now that you’re in your fifties and above, the thought doesn’t sound so terrible. The cliché that old people don’t have sex, don’t want sex, don’t think about sex just isn’t true. In fact, there’s no reason why sex from age fifty, up into the seventies, it can’t be the best sex you’ve ever had.
The main reason older women give for not wanting to engage in sexual activity is menopause. In the western world, menopause generally occurs from age 48 to 61 and with it, dryness. This is a very treatable issue. There are nutritional supplements, lubrication agents and prescription drugs that have shown excellent results. Plus, having sex two to three times a week, cures the dryness itself because of the increased blood flow to the genital area.
For older men, the most popular reason for not wanting to have sex is diminished testosterone or low t. While it is normal for testosterone levels to decrease from age 30 and up, lack of sexual desire isn’t. Again, this is a highly treatable condition. Some natural remedies include changing your diet with an emphasis on more green, leafy vegetables and less red meat. There’s nutritional supplements such as zinc, potassium, Vitamin A and Vitamin B6. And, if these don’t fix the problem, there’s prescription medications like Androgel, Depotestogen and Axiron that have gotten very positive results.
Another reason for diminished sex drive has little to do with aging and more to do with lifestyle and that is a Vitamin D deficiency. The good news is you don’t need to go to a pharmacist to fix it, you just need to go outside. Sun light is the best provider of Vitamin D and it’s free. Ten to fifteen minutes a day outside without sunscreen can have profound results in increased bone density and better heart health. Plus, it’s fun to go outside. Now that we’ve discussed how to get rid of the main impediments of having sex from age 50 and up, let’s look at the psychological reasons why post middle aged sex can be great.
The number one reason is that the pressure is off. Think about it, if you’re in your 50’s, most likely the kids have been raised and are, hopefully, out of the house. So, in many ways, turning 50 is like a reset button to back when you were in your 20’s or newlyweds without worrying about an unwanted pregnancy. Also, with major financial obligations out of the way, you have more disposable income which you can use for romantic getaways, cruises or trying the new restaurant that just opened up.
Reason number two is that you know what you want and you‘re not afraid to ask for it. Let’s face it, with age comes wisdom and this is a very good thing. If you knew what you wanted sexually in your 20’s and weren’t timid about voicing it, then my hat is off to you. If you were like the 95 percent of us who didn’t, now is the time to make up for it. So, in closing, being over 50 doesn’t have to be a death knell for your sex life. In fact, with a little work, if can be the best phase of your life sexually and otherwise. Don’t be afraid to embrace it.